Where did my desire go?
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Nurtured Intimacy
About
Let's talk about what happens to women's sexual desire in midlife — without shame, assumptions or the expectation that you should just “get your mojo back.”
Across four one-hour sessions, we'll unpack hormones, menopause, desire, relationships, pleasure, changing bodies and what a satisfying sex life can look like now.
Keep your camera off!
Plus: a private Q&A session where you can ask the questions you've always wanted to ask.
SESSION 1 — What Actually Happens to Desire?
Libido isn't broken — it's complicated.
- What libido actually is
- Spontaneous vs responsive desire
- Why desire changes across midlife
- Hormones, stress, sleep, medication and life load
- Why “I used to want sex” isn't necessarily a useful benchmark
SESSION 2 — Is It My Hormones… or Is It Him/Her?
When you're not sure whether you've lost desire — or lost desire for your partner.
- How to distinguish low desire generally from partner-specific desire
- Attraction vs desire vs intimacy
- Resentment, emotional safety and relationship dynamics
- Why being attracted to someone else doesn't necessarily mean your relationship is doomed
- The uncomfortable question: “Do I want more sex, or do I want something different?”
SESSION 3 — Menopause, Sex & Your Changing Body
Your body hasn't betrayed you. It's changed the rules.
- Perimenopause vs menopause
- Vaginal and genital changes
- Arousal, lubrication and orgasm
- Pain and discomfort
- Hormonal changes and sexual function
- What can be helped medically and what isn't necessarily a hormone problem
- When it's worth talking to your GP or another health professional
SESSION 4 — Getting Your Sex Life Back (Or Creating a New One)
You don't have to go back to who you were.
- Finding out what actually turns you on now
- Communication and asking for what you want
- Exploring pleasure without making orgasm the goal
- Sex after divorce / long-term relationships / children
- Casual sex, dating and sexual confidence
- Toys, masturbation and exploration
- Creating your own definition of a satisfying sex life